Dating at times is too difficult for many. In spite of being “connected” with many people via web 2. 0, many singles still realize its an almost impossible task to locate their loved ones, develop and maintain a satisfying intimate relationship.
Because of this, it makes no main difference on how many dates each goes and how many relationships they attempt to develop: they get it wrong over and over again, for the simple reason that they just never take time to understand what they do which inturn harms their attempts.
It is as if meeting “the best suited person” stays only a dream. Many singles resort to hiring personal coaches, advisors or dating experts with the task of coordinating them with the “right” people, convincing themselves that they are just too busy to look, look and find.
These therefore resort to finding a single and thousand excuses to justify their failures, not the least is: shortage of one’s. Resorting to dating services is one way to not take task for their failed attempts. “Let someone else do the job”, they tell themselves, “Then it will not be my sole responsibility for yet another failed attempts. “
Taking responsibility means: you decide, once and for all, to become aware of a host of factors that drive you to fail in your relationships. Could it be your perceptions towards the other sex? May well these be your fears and needs which drive you to behave in self-sabotaging ways? Could these get messages you internalized from a young age about how romantic relationships “should” look like – emails which now, as an adult, come back to haunt you?
Time and again I find singles who, without possibly knowing it, shoot themselves in the foot in associations. Being unaware of doing so, they cannot know what they need to change to be able to succeed next time around.
It is as you ask yourself these – and various – questions; when you check inwards and observe your self; and when you develop your Self-Awareness, that you can finally de-activate the power these factors have exerted upon you, and free yourself to re-think the method that you approach partners and family relationships.
But is it really so? Is it really a general shortage of time that inhibits them from finding the right person? And also could it be that even when they will meet a potential spouse many singles just do not know how to develop a healthy and successful relationship? Could it be quite possibly unaware of the many ways in which they sabotage their attempts in intimacy?
May these be unrealistic targets and fantasies about partners and relationships which get you to expect the difficult (and blame your lovers time and again)? May this be your opinion of reality, being convinced that “your way” of thinking, feeling and doing things is always “the right way”, and your partner’s “the wrong way”?
Taking obligations for your success or failing at relationships is a major to making a significant change leading to success. It is only when you take responsibility and be truly motivated to understand, definately, what hinders your initiatives that you embark on the road to success.
Self-Awareness might be the only streets you haven’t taken so far in your attempts to find a spouse with whom to develop a thriving intimacy. Paradoxically enough, this can be the only road which can have your there.